In the name of Allah the Merciful, the very Beneficent.
Children are a great blessings from our Lord Allah (SWT). They are the coolness of our eyes, they are the one's who also bring colors to our life, responsibility and wonderful memories. Our kids smile makes our hard times, sorrows and our busy life disappear and brings smiles to our faces without reason. They become our world, they become our treasure...
After marriage surely a couple would expect a baby, we were one of them. After one pleasant month passed away we had a deep despondent for a baby, so we started to pray and ask Dua to our Lord Allah the almighty, the only one who can create anything without nothing.
After 4 months passed away, we decided to do Ummrah. We was preparing all our things, the passport was given, we studied all about Ummrah, the rules and the benefits, we were eager to go to the city of our beloved Prophet and see the magnificent Kaa'bah, we were too excited till the arrangements are done. And then, I had my checkup to take tablets before I go. And then only found out I am Pregnant. We were half shocked (coz of Ummrah) and happy, after a lot of Mushoora We decided to postpone our journey with a heavy heart, My hubby promised me to take to Ummrah when its safe for travelling.
So doing a lot of Isthigfaar and reciting Quran more than usual gave me the blessings to conceive. Alhamdulillah we were the happiest couple at that time and didn't forget to thank Allah(SWT) for granting our Dua's and giving this wonderful opportunity.
I believe from now on (the moment after conceiving) the duty of parents begins for us. We should ask Allah (SWT) for a righteous child and that child can only be the coolness of our eyes in Dunya and Aakhira.
Dua I asked for a righteous child after every prayers;
رَبِّ هَبْ لِي مِنْ لَدُنْكَ ذُرِّيَّةً طَيِّبَةً إِنَّكَ سَمِيعُ الدُّعَاءِ
“Rabbi hab liy min-ladunka zurriyatan-tayyibah innaka sam‘iud-du’aa.”
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
“Rabbana hablana min azwajina wa zurriyatina qurrata aayuniu,waja alna lilmutta qina imama.”
رَبِّ هَبْ لِي مِنْ الصَّالِحِينَ
“Rabbi habli minas solihin.”
Reciting the Quran after every prayers and reciting in our free times, always Listen to the Quran while we are in work and in bedtime till we sleep. I kept a time to recite Surah Mariyam and Yusoof, but got to recite Surah Mariyam more often.To say clearly. Bond with the Quran, connect with it deeply, try to memorize Surah's, understand the verses, love the Quran which has the words of our Lord.
We should also try to be good in all the situations we meet coz the baby adopts every single way that a mother acts upon when the baby is in womb.Like being very patience in everything, never talk or hear unnecessary things, strictly avoid watching television or all kinds related, even the computer, use if needed.
And the same goes to playing games not only in computer but in mobiles too, avoid it as much as you can. nobody realize the time it swallows, we could benefit a lot at that time. If you couldn't stop playing, erase it off from your device, I did that. No harm done
Always begin your day by eating something sweet, and of course Honey is the best. I lick some honey by pouring it on my palm, when I do this I keep my Niyat. Jazakallah for my Hubby who reminds me to do this in the morning. I drank a lot of Zam Zam water and didn't forget to eat dates.
A promise is a promise, after 4 months we got ready for Ummrah again. The first sight of the Kaa'bah was speechless, I can still remember the moment, simply amazing,and had the best 10 days in life. I felt my baby's kick for the first time at The Haram Sharif, I was thrilled...and I felt Motherly.
At six months, I began my Montessori Course, which was pretty little tough. Coz it had a lot of hand crafts, cutting, pasting, taking pics, writing and tough exams. It was also interesting, at the beginning it wasn't, but when I was into it always, I got to like it. And now I miss it. I went to Montessori as a training teacher for 5 months and I got to experience a lot.
The reason I did this course was, because of my hubby. He thought if I had a clear knowledge and experience on how to teach kids, It would be easy to homeschool and raise my own kids.
And Alhamdulillah it was, and Jazakallah to my hubby.
I and my hubby talks with the baby more often, and we enjoyed the punch and kicks inside my tummy given by my baby although it was painful for me.
At nine months I started to recite;
لَّا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنتَ سُبْحَانَكَ إِنِّي كُنتُ مِنَ الظَّالِمِينَ
la ilaha illa anta subhanaka inneekuntu mina aththalimeen
At last my delivery time (whew!). The day my little girl came to ummi's am's, with gorgeous big eyes and with her sweet little cry, which was on 23-Nov-2009, 5-D.Hijjah-1430, at 3:45 am at Thahajjad, Alhamdulillah she was healthy and weighed 3.4 kg.
My hubby whispered the Azan in baby's ear, and our Moulana sweetened our baby's mouth with dates.
Choosing name for our $weety was a tough decision, there were lot of names sent by our families and we don't want to hurt anybody.
So prayed Isthikara, wrote the names and picked one, among came the beautiful name BAREERAH which means Pious. We did research about Bareerah ( RAL) for who Prophet (SAL) has made Dua.
On the seventh day we gave Aqeeqah, shaved her head and gave Sadaqah for it's weight and circumcised. And made lots and lots of Dua.
The memory of motherhood is extraordinary that nobody can forget about it. those are special... unforgettable... precious memories that lasts forever.
Oh my Lord Alhamdulillah for giving us motherhood, which some are craving for, Oh Lord give the opportunity of motherhood who are infertile, give them your blessings, give them the blossom of life, if its good for them, give them a righteous one, Ameen.
The reason I'm writing this post is for my children, so they will know that we had done our duty which we had to do when they have been created inside our womb and after birth as Islam has said. So that they understand the value of motherhood and its responsibilities and could do better than this in their time of life with clear knowledge than us Inshallah.
Oh my Lord, so far we have done these only to please you with the best of our knowledge, if we have missed or mistaken any of these forgive us and guide us to raise our children in the way of Islam.
Ya Allah bless our children and give them the best of health and guide them to the straight path, Ameen!!!.
Alhamdulillah, if its not for Allah's grace none of this will happen and none of this we could achieved (Writing this long post too!!!)